Category: C

“Chastity… the most unnatural of all the sexual perversions.”

-Aldous Huxley

Definition

Chastity once served a purpose. Knights and important men would lock away their wife’s pussy so no one else could misuse their property, but now, it has become a fetish. There are probably more guys who enjoy this fetish simply because it is easier to lock up a cock and adhere to hygienic standards than it is for a pussy, though chastity belts for women still do exist. Usually the submissive has their genitals locked up with a chastity belt or similar device and someone else is their keyholder. Having someone else control your not only your orgasms but any access to your most intimate areas can be a source of intense power exchange among full time BDSM couples.

How Long Is Access Denied?

Some people get locked up in a chastity belt for a few hours during a play session while others give themselves over to someone and leave that decision up to their keyholder. Some people have their orgasms off limits for months at a time, leading to some serious sexual frustration during periods of prohibition. You should be aware that taking away complete access to sex can be very distracting and it can also affect your ability to work or do the things you normally do in life outside the bedroom. If you’re a very physically active person, the devices themselves can also become restrictive as far as how much movement you can engage in athletically; so long term chastity may not work for you.

The Devices

Modern chastity devices are much better than their medieval counterparts. The ones available for women today often come with different options, such as the ability to leave the backdoor open or closed, and interior shields that make them more comfortable, because the shield can be removed for cleaning. Men’s chastity belts – often referred to as cock cages, encase the cock inside a rectangular prison. Usually that prevents even a mild erection from being possible. They can also be made from plastic or stainless steel. Some cock cages have nasty spikes on the inside to make any arousal physically painful as a sensory cue for training purposes. The most extreme versions of chastity devices integrate body piercings into their overall design for maximum security.

Hygiene

The best way to maintain proper hygiene while wearing a chastity belt is for the keyholder to observe the submissive while they remove the chastity device and clean themselves before putting it back on, to make sure that no “mistakes” can occur during washing. Others like to allow these naughty transgressions to happen because punishment for non-approved orgasms is also a terrific way to teach the consequences of disobedience! Devices really do need to be removed about once a week at a minimum in order to avoid a nasty funk and abhorrent smell. Even the filthiest female whore also needs to clean her pussy regularly, especially during menses in order to maintain a proper PH balance. Otherwise serious health ailments can occur, and her pussy would become useless during times when it is desired in any case.

Orgasm Permission And Forced Orgasms

Chastity is the more serious overarching aspect of a more popular fetish known by many as Orgasm Permission or Forced Orgasms. In these subcategories of Chastity play, a Dominant partner controls his submissive’s ability to climax by withholding permission, or requiring an orgasm to occur within a set timeframe. For example, a Dom might tell his sub “You have three minutes to cum, and if you fail you will not be allowed to cum any time in the next three weeks” or a Dom may tell his submissive to rub her pussy and bring herself to the precipice of an intense orgasm, only to abruptly end the session and flatly explain “no orgasms for you today.”

“I think if human beings had genuine courage, they’d wear their costumes every day of the year, not just on Halloween.”

-Douglas Coupland

Definition

Cosplay is what happens when wearing the costumes of their favorite characters is what turns people on the most. Cosplay doesn’t even have to be sexual; people can enjoy dressing up and getting all the details of a costume perfect without having sexual connotations. However, when it turns kinky is when you have sex while dressed up as your favorite character. Cosplay get ups can get quite detailed which only reflects the complex outfits designed by animators and costume designers.

Buy it vs. Make It

If you want to try cosplay, there are many different ways you could make your costume happen. First of all, you can usually buy costumes of popular characters from a website or costume store if it is near Halloween. Some people love that, however, others find it is more fun to make the costume either from scratch or by piecing together different pieces from thrift stores and craft stores. Still others enjoy actually crafting the costumes from scratch, which requires a lot of skill and a good, artistic eye.

Role Play

The reason why people enjoy doing cosplay during sex is that is gives you the opportunity to bring some deeper role-play into the bedroom. You can play the part of your favorite super hero who rescues the girl and then ravishes her in victory, or the part of the super villain who is the one who captured her in the first place. You can also role play epic romances between sexy people on TV, or get your fantasy fulfilled of fucking the hottest celebrities around. When it’s put in those terms, cosplay makes a lot of sense.

You Are Anyone or Any Thing

The other reason why people love role-play is that you can be anyone. You don’t have to be Joe the boring accountant or Gina the nurse, you can be the exciting person you’ve always dreamed about and that tends to make sex a lot more interesting when you really think about it, doesn’t it?

“My wife is a sex object. Every time I ask for sex, she objects.”

– Les Dawson

Definition

If you find that your honey objects every time you want to have sex, you may be in for a hot cuckolding fantasy. This is when a guy’s female partner, often known as a hotwife or cuckoldress, denies him sex, usually because he is too weak and pathetic to please her. She goes out and finds other hot guys who know how to pleasure her with their superior dicks. The cuckold might just know that the Dominant woman is going out to find better cock, but he might also watch her get pleasured by a better dick than the one he has. Sometimes cuck play is also used in conjunction with BDSM concepts like chastity and bondage. Often times the sub guy has his dick locked up since it’s of no use anyways, or he will get tied up while watching the hot sex so he doesn’t touch his worthless cock without permission.

History

In the first usage of the term cuckolding, it wasn’t so kinky. It usually just denoted a guy who was getting cheated on in the middle ages. There is a famous mention of the word in Geoffrey Chaucer’s The Miller’s tale. However, slowly over time it came to be a fetish instead of just a word. No one knows exactly when people started to get kinky with this act, but it’s pretty popular now!

Why Would He?

Why would any guy willingly give up access to his lady’s pussy? While, some guys get off on being submissive and humiliated. Sometimes this desire just comes up naturally, and other times it stems from experiences early on in life. Still other people say that they actually do have really small and useless cocks and being a cuck helps them feel useful to their partners. One thing is for sure – the cuck needs to have a sexually submissive nature. Some people think cucks just want to escape the stresses of every day life, while others who follow a Freudian school of thought believe that is it a sexualization of the constant evolutionary struggle that men go through all the time to prove their Dominance.

Is it cheating?

When people hear of cuckolding, some of them can’t believe that such a thing would exist and that people would participate willingly. But, there are actually quite a few types of lifestyles like swinging and polyamory, which involve partners willingly and consensually having sex with others outside of the relationship. If everyone is in the know and agrees to everything, then it’s really not cheating, and it’s actually a whole lot of fun.

“I doubt whether classical education ever has been, or can be, successfully carried out without corporal punishment.”

-George Orwell

Definition

Corporal punishment is a real life activity that still goes on sometimes, but in this case, we are talking about the fetish activity that relates to BDSM play. It usually encompasses a rigid method of caning and/or paddling used in role-play scenarios of discipline. The situations are often times naughty college students who need to be punished until bruised on their asses and moaning, or sometimes the tables get turned and it’s the headmaster who needs a good paddling.

Setting the Scene

Before you agree to do corporal punishment play, you should talk seriously with your play partner to make sure everyone is on the same page. You should talk about if you find getting marks on your bum acceptable, so your partner can choose implements and strength that won’t be likely to do so. You should talk about a safe word, so that if the pain should get too intense, the sub can stop things on a dime.

Fantasy Ideas

Don’t relegate your corporal punishment fantasies to be in a college classroom setting. There are many other venues where caning and flogging take place to instill discipline in someone. Fraternities and sororities are another university-based fantasy for corporal punishment, and they even have their own paddles, traditionally. There are also military and police fantasies where high up officers use corporal punishment to teach the lower guys a good lesson. It’s nice to get creative with CP (short for corporal punishment) fantasies because it adds some pep to your bruising and caning routine.

Implements

For your corporal punishment scenes, there are many different types of things you can use. Canes are probably the most harsh but also the most popular implement to be used in CP scenes. They are thin, and usually made of wood, and they leave some serious welts on the ass. The next most popular item are paddles. These can be made of leather or wood, softer with a resounding thud or harder with a sudden sting. Floggers are not quite as popular for this purpose because a higher level of expertise is necessary to accurately tune the level of punishment being administered with each strike.