“Mental penetration isn’t about physical copulation, but a cerebral stimulation causing ejaculations of the mind…”

-Sanjo Jendayi

Definition of Sapiosexual

A person who is sapiosexual is sexually attracted to highly intelligent people. In many cases, they believe that intellect is one of the most important qualities to have in a partner. That said, people who are sapiosexual can also have other turn-ons that might be more mainstream. The definition of sapiosexual has expanded over the years and also includes people who are emotionally turned on by intelligence. It is sometimes considered a sexual orientation, albeit a fringe, somewhat controversial one. Intelligence is the genuine turn-on for these people, not the status, job, or financial benefits that could accompany the intelligence of the person they are attracted to.

How To Tell If You Are Sapiosexual

People who are drawn to potential partners mainly by their intelligence can be sapiosexuals. In most cases, this attribute is more important to them than looks or personality. If you find yourself drawn to a person’s intellect most of all, you are likely sapiosexual. People enjoy sapiosexual relationships through conversations and activities that focus on intelligence. Intellectual conversations are a turn-on, and you may need to have a deep, meaningful discussion before sexual activity crosses your mind. Intellect for many sapiosexuals is even more important than the emotional “spark” that is usually considered the basis of many types of relationships.

Is Sapiosexuality A Sexual Orientation?

There has been controversy about whether sapiosexual is a sexual orientation. Sexual orientations and sexualities can be fluid, and the terminology that is used is extensive. Many people feel that sapiosexual people should not be included in the LGBT umbrella, though some sexuality experts advocate it as valid orientation. If you find yourself attracted by intelligence, to the extent of it being the highest priority in your dating life and in relationships, this may be the most accurate term to express your sexuality. Many people believe that gender is always another consideration for sapiosexual people, though for some intellect trumps gender. Ultimately, labels can be helpful for many people by allowing them to feel more comfortable, confident, and secure in their sexuality. If this term feels like the best descriptor, or a valid one for you, then you should use it.

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“From a mind filled with infinite love comes the power to create infinite possibilities.”

-Marianne Williamson

Definition of Polyamory

Polyamory is the practice of having more than one romantic relationship at a time, or having a romantic relationship involving more than one partner. While there are some differences in how each person or relationship defines polyamory, there are also many similarities between types of polyamorous relationships. Polyamory is designed to be above all honest, responsible and ethical. The practice of loving multiple people simultaneously is not new, though people in polyamorous relationships often face some social stigma. Many polyamorous people believe that love is unlimited. People of all sexualities can be found in polyamorous relationships, including heterosexual, lesbian, gay, bisexual, and pansexual. Polyamory is not intrinsically sexual in nature, and people can be in intimate relationships, romantic relationships, or a combination of the two. Some asexual people are polyamorous, and aromantic people can be poly as well. While some people who are polyamorous engage in casual sex and are in open relationships, casual sex is not a characteristic of polyamory.

About Polyamorous Relationships

Polyamorous relationships come in all shapes and forms. Some people utilize hierarchical formats, while others have more of a focus on individual relationships in a non-hierarchical way. Some people might use polyamory as a definition for being able to have casual sex, though this is not in alignment with the accepted definition of polyamory. Polyamory is also not synonymous with being a polygamist, a different type of relationship structure. Enjoying polyamory best starts with understanding what it is. It is not swinging, it is not a term for all forms of open relationships, but rather it is a term that is used to describe people open to or in committed, loving relationships with multiple people.

The Bottom Line About Polyamory

Consensual non-monogamy, or ethical non-monogamy, is an umbrella term used to describe open relationships, swinging, and polyamory. Polyamory is different than both swinging and open relationships in the sense that the focus is on committed and loving relationships with multiple partners. Research has pointed to evidence that more than 20% of Americans have been a participant in consensual non-monogamous relationships at some point during their lives. If you are looking to be polyamorous with a partner, take care to be open and nonjudgmental with your communication. Respect your partner’s feelings and beliefs and do your research. Polyamory can be very rewarding, providing both commitment and flexibility within relationship structures.

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“I’m in lesbians with you”

-Scott Pilgrim

Definition of Lesbian

A lesbian is a woman that is attracted to other women. The term refers to gay women and to homosexuality in women. Many people question their sexuality at some point in their life, and the word lesbian can be used to describe specific interactions or as a sexual orientation in general. Whether being used to describe sexual identity, sexual behavior, or a specific way of life, lesbians are a larger percent of the population than most people believe. Being a lesbian is not specifically about sex; it can refer to a woman who is romantically attracted to other women, in addition to referring to a woman who is sexually attracted to other ladies. The term lesbian started to be used to differentiate women with a shared sexual orientation in the 20th century. It is a sexual orientation, in the same way that being straight, bisexual or pansexual are.

Portrayal of Lesbians In Porn & Media

Lesbians have been portrayed in the media in many different ways, but there is no doubt that society has always been intrigued by women who challenge gender roles and traditional sexualities. Over time, lesbians have moved from being controversial in movies and television show scenes to becoming much more accepted and common. However, people who enjoy pornography and live sex cams have been watching lesbian sex and interactions between women for many more years than TV viewers! There are concerns for lesbians in real life, including discrimination, prejudice, and minority stress. While political conditions and social attitudes have been becoming more positive, there is still a long way to go when it comes to acceptance of lesbian romantic relationships, or women loving women, as well as sexual relationships between ladies. Lesbians are wonderful people, whether you are dating one or just have fantasies about them from the sidelines.

The Bottom Line About Lesbians

Lesbians are fantastic, and there are more of them out there than people think. The word lesbian refers to both sexual activities between two women and is a sexuality in itself. As the L in LGBT, the idea that two women can have a relationship, love each other, and have sex with each other has become more normalized over the years. The term is important when it comes to sexual identity for many people. While the idea that sexual activity is necessary between two women to define a lesbian or a lesbian relationship has been debated in the past, that debate has been put to rest in recent years. No sexual relationship or experience is needed for a person to be considered a lesbian.

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“Love isn’t a choice. You fall for the person, not their chromosomes.”

-I.W. Gregorio, None of the Above

Definition of Intersex

Being intersex refers to a person who has both male and female reproductive organs or a combination of characteristics from both. It can also mean the chromosomal patterns of a person do not fall under the typical definitions of female and male. In some cases, an intersex person has genitals or other characteristics that do not clearly fit the usual definition of either a female body or a male one at all. In most cases these are sexual characteristics, involving the genitals or the reproductive system. That said, it is not uncommon for an intersex person to look or present as either strictly male or strictly female outside of their genitals. Being intersex is a genetic condition that some people are born with and not a gender expression. With a congenital anomaly of the reproductive and sexual systems, intersex people are sometimes born with external genitalia, internal reproductive organs and/or an endocrine system that are different than most other people. The intersex term encompasses a variety of body types and situations.

Intersex As An Identity & Its Sexualization

If you are an intersex person, know that intersex does not have to be your identity. You are a unique individual, and while many people do claim intersex as part of their identity, it does not confine you to a specific gender identification. Most people who are intersex identify as men or women, though there are also many who identify as non-binary as well. In terms of the adult entertainment industry, there are pornstars who are intersex, and their videos can be found on specialty sites. That said, there is some controversy about the sexualization of intersex people, who themselves can have varying opinions when addressing that controversy.

The Bottom Line About Being Intersex

Intersex people can be born with any of several variations in sexual characteristics, including chromosomes, genitalia, sex hormones, and more. While they do not fit the typical definition of male or female, most identify as one of the two. They may have characteristics of both sexes externally, or they may also externally show the characteristics of only one sex. Some folks are fascinated by intersex people, and while some identify as intersex publicly, many do not, either for privacy reasons or to avoid being discriminated against or sexually objectified. Whether you are intersex or are seeking out more information about intersex people, we hope you found this article useful.

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“No one knows what you have been through or what your pretty little eyes have seen, but I can reassure you ~ whatever you have conquered, it shines through your mind.”

-Nikki Rowe

Definition of Femboy

Femboy is a slang term for a person who is most often a cisgender male and displays characteristics that are considered traditionally feminine. The LGBT community is gradually reclaiming this term to use it positively as a name of a form of gender expression. The word “femboy” emerged in the 90s as a derogatory term for a male who did not adhere to the more traditional standards of masculinity. Over time, the community started using the term themselves in a positive manner. In circles where femininity was sought after, the term started to get used more frequently. For some, femboys were seen as a sexual fantasy. From that point forward, it has been adopted as a self-identifying term for males who like presenting femininity for non-sexual purposes. How people identify within their gender expression is up to them, and this term is a fantastic way to describe yourself if you fall into this description. In addition to femboy, the term femboi is now also in use. That term extends the femboy definition to also include trans men and lesbians.

Femboys Online & In Real Life

For people who are looking to enjoy the femboy appeal, there are plenty of videos, pictures, and resources online. Whether you are looking to become a femboy on your own or are looking for femboy porn videos, the good old Internet has you covered! Erotic stories, movies, and videos involving femboys have been around since the term itself came into existence. As a form of everyday gender expression, most people who identify as femboy are doing it for non-sexual purposes. In many cases, they are donning a conventionally feminine aesthetic by wearing makeup, feminine clothing, or other feminine accessories. While some people do stereotype femboy persons as gay, the term is not tied to any specific sexual orientation.

The Bottom Line About Being A Femboy

Terms that help people identify with themselves and other people are essential, and whether you are interested in being a femboy yourself or are interested in learning more about them, it can be immensely rewarding.

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Virgin / Defloration

“I lost my virginity when I was 14, and I haven’t been able to find it since.”

-David Duchovny


A virgin or defloration fetish is based around the desire to have sex with someone for their first time, otherwise known as taking their virginity.

Defloration Fetish

Enacting the fetish of defloration is fairly uncommon in the world of adult entertainment due to the fact that there aren’t that many virgins participating in the adult industry. It is something that can be achieved through finding adult partners that are going to be inexperienced, but willing to learn from someone that has learned much more sexually. Commonly this is going to involve a lot more work to find, although it may be accomplished more easily if dating a person of legal age from a religious background but with looser sensibilities around the edicts of their religion. There are films that supposedly feature defloration, but most often they are not being quite as truthful about the sexual experience of their actors. This fetish deals with ideas of being the first to have someone, making it a special experience that will always be remembered by the virgin involved.

How To Find A Virgin

If you are looking to find a virgin to enact this with, you may have to search a bit. Being a virgin tends to be fairly uncommon amongst those of age to legally have sex, unless they are religious, or possibly asexual. It’s still possible though to find those that want to engage in sex, that just haven’t found the right partner yet or are also looking for more serious commitment. Chatrooms or online groups can be used to try and find partners that might fit the parameters you’re looking for. If you are a virgin that is looking for a more experienced partner that will treat you respectfully, then searching on kink sites might be a good way for you to vet someone you want to engage with for your first experience. Finding a person to fit your virgin fetish will definitely be a one-off experience, but that doesn’t mean it is impossible. You may find a very meaningful relationship with someone that wants to have their first time experience, or just wants to lose their virginity.

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“Some people walk in the rain, others just get wet.”

-Roger Miller


Squirting involves a female participant engaging in sexual intercourse, either with a partner, or with toys, until they squirt from their vagina. The fluid from the woman’s vagina is squirted during an orgasm, and can also involve secretions from the skene’s glands, which are sometimes referred to as the female prostate.

All About Squirting

Squirting is portrayed in a number of adult films, with women having sexual intercourse until they are squirting large amounts of vaginal fluid all over their partner, or partners. Penetration is commonly involved in any attempts to squirt, but some women may be able to achieve it through oral sex depending on their level of sensitivity. Squirting can be achieved with different levels of intensity depending on the woman’s level of control, and how apt their body is to squirt to begin with. Not all women can squirt, but many can learn to over time. Many squirters can achieve it through fisting, with the intensity of the penetration being what can stimulate the squirting.

What To Do

If you’re interested in squirting or being with someone that squirts, there are many online discussions about it, as well as articles that you can read to learn more. You could connect with others online that love to engage in the act of squirting, and may be willing to help you learn how to squirt as well. If you are someone that wants to be with women that squirt, there will be plenty of women for you to engage with that will enjoy sharing their ability to squirt with you. It is considered a form of sexual baptism in some circles to be able to make a woman squirt through orgasming, and may be a very fun way for you to approach this sexual activity. Remember that squirting isn’t possible for every woman, so it’s not something to be expected, but is something to be cherished when you’re able to participate in it.

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“Now, the penis is round, and the anus is round, while the vagina’s opening is long and narrow; clearly then Nature designed the penis to fit into the anus, not into the vagina.”

-Ada Palmer


Prolapse refers to a fetish dealing with anal prolapse from sexual activity, and is also referred to as rosebudding. Prolapse happens when a person’s rectum collapses and slides out of the anus. This would commonly lead to a trip to the hospital, but in the realm of this fetish a prolapsed anus will often involve sexual activity once the anus has prolapsed, having it be touched, licked, kissed, and played with.

The Fetish

A prolapse fetish involves an individual having anal sex until their anus becomes prolapsed and then continuing to have erotic activity revolving around their prolapsed anus. This is a fetish that has to be done carefully, because the individual with the prolapsed anus might need to receive medical attention soon afterwards. The prolapse fetish can be considered a more extreme form of an anal play fetish. Due to the nature of this fetish, it is best to have a medical professional on hand, or at least a means to get to one very quickly.

Prolapse Safety

Prolapse play is a very dangerous fetish to participate in, and should be handled with care. If you are someone that wants to be on the receiving end of having your anus prolapsed, you should research carefully and make sure you’re willing to deal with the medical complications that may come from it. You can connect with others that have experienced it firsthand or have been present for it in various online communities. There might be an increased chance of finding someone that has experienced it through more gay-centric websites, due to the larger amount of anal sex in the gay community. With all of the problems that can be associated with this fetish, it is in your best interest to educate yourself around the complications that can come from it. There are adult films based around prolapsing that you can watch ahead of time, to see how much this really interests you before you engage in it yourself.

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Lesbian Domination

“Girls love each other like animals. There is something ferocious and unself-conscious about it. […] We love with claws and teeth and the blood is just proof of how much. It’s feral. And it’s relentless.”

-Leah Raeder, Black Iris


Lesbian domination involves a lesbian in the position of a dominatrix, dominating one or several women. This can sometimes involve the dominant woman using men as her slaves while she engages in erotic activities or dominates another woman. But this BDSM act most often involves a woman just dominating another woman with no men involved at all.

The Fetish

Commonly lesbian domination, or lezdom, involves a woman dominating other women sexually and also through various BDSM activities. There isn’t always sex involved in the act of domination, and it isn’t a requirement for the enactment of this fetish. A woman dominating another woman can involve the use of restraints, flogging, acts of shaming and a number of other kinks that are woven into domination as well. The main requirement of lesbian domination is that lesbians are involved in the acts of domination, and in being dominated.

What To Do

If you’re interested in lesbian domination, you’ll be able to access relevant information through many sites dedicated to connecting with female and lesbian doms, or online communities based around BDSM relationships. There are a number of Dommes for hire if you want to engage in being dominated by a lesbian dominatrix, and you may find access to them through many websites. If you are looking for a less personal interaction, you can enjoy a variety of lezdom porn online. Chatrooms are available on fetish sites where you can ask any questions you might have over lesbian domination, or just to check out what kind of domination games can be played. Lesbian doms are available on many sites, including webcam sites where you will be able to engage with them visually as well.

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“Blasphemy is an epithet bestowed by superstition upon common sense.”

-Robert Green Ingersoll


Blasphemy, as a kink, involves taking the Judeo-Christian God’s name in vain or other forms of sacrilegious behavior, as means of becoming aroused sexually. This can be accomplished with multiple forms of blasphemous behavior, and is commonly associated with acts of blasphemy being performed during sexual intercourse.

The Fetish

People that become aroused by blasphemous behavior accomplish it with various types of blasphemy. Often, one or both of the parties involved in the blasphemy kink will wear attire associated with the religion being blasphemed. Commonly priest and nun attire are utilized. A common enactment of this kink can involve someone dressed as a priest taking someone’s confession, which then turns into the performance of different sexual acts as a form of penance. Taking communion can involve an inserted phallus in place of a wafer, or bodily fluids in place of wine, and there are many ways to perform this kink through forms of consented punishment.

What To Do

Though this may seem like a taboo that’s hard to bring up to people due to the delicate feelings some may have around religion, there are many groups dedicated to this kink. There are online communities that are based around this fetish, and access to them is easy through a number of kink-dedicated sites. Costumes are readily available through a number of costume sites online, to meet any of your needs to fulfill this kink by dressing up as different religious figures. A number of fellow kinksters will gladly engage with you in your blasphemy kink, but just be aware that performing any acts of sacrilegious sexiness on private grounds dedicated to religion, such as churches, is still highly illegal and will end in fines and/or jail if you are caught.

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