Category: C

“You go cutting one guy’s cock off and you never hear the end of it.”

-Kameron Hurley

Definition

While most people really appreciate their genitals, some people actually want to see them go. Whether it is because they desire to submit so deeply to a dominant that they don’t care what happens to them, or because they love women and hate men, including themselves, it is a confusing fetish to have when you want to chop off your own dick or maybe become a eunuch as part of sexual practice. Believe it or not there are actually a few different ways to castrate someone, all of which should only be done under the care of a medical professional. Most people don’t think that the culmination of a fetish deserves medical attention so this is another one that you’ll probably want to simply role-play.

Types of Castration

There are all sorts of different types of castration that will help anyone feel like their cock has shriveled up even if it hasn’t. The most common type of castration is surgical castration that should always only be done by a medical professional. There are also other options to have your balls cut off only, if you want to leave the cock, and vice versa. There is also chemical castration, which involves the person taking medication that suppresses their sex drive and sexual organs. Finally, there are a few forms of castration involving taking something tight and cutting off the circulation to the testicles.

Making it a Fantasy

Castration, for many, is one of the fantasies that is really not as fun when experienced in reality. You can never cum again with your regular dick if you castrate yourself, and so it’s a grave decision to make. Because of that people really like to role-play about castration, usually in the context of BDSM relationships. Often there is the threat of castration, or bands and ties are used to tighten around the balls, but they don’t cut off the supply completely and can be removed before any real damage is done. It’s much more fun when you get to cum another day!

“When a woman says, ‘I have nothing to wear!’ What she really means is, ‘There’s nothing here for who I’m supposed to be today.”

-Caitlin Moran

Definition

Cross-dressing is a fetish that is pretty well known. It is when a guy has a strong desire to dress like a woman, or when a lady wants to appear as a man. If you have a fetish for cross-dressing, you may feel like you have to hide it, especially if you enjoy being a sissy. People like to cross dress for many different reasons. However, it’s important to note that there is a big difference between enjoying dressing like a woman or even being a drag queen, and being a transgender woman.

What’s the Difference?

If you want to cross dress, that’s great! It means that you are secure enough with your own gender presentation to experiment with what it feels like to dress in other manners. However, being a transgender person is quite different. That means that you actually are a person of the opposite gender who was simply imprisoned in the wrong type of body with the wrong type of genitals. Some trans people take measures like getting surgery to have their parts match their minds, and others use hormones, but cross dressers usually do not because they are in the right body already, they just aren’t in the correct clothing.

How to Do It

Cross-dressing is fun even when you don’t have a specific fetish for it. If you are a guy you can try putting on a pair of stockings and trying a pair of heels for your lover or partner. Have them treat you like a woman a bit. Maybe they can rough you up or even put some makeup on you. If you are a girl you can give it a try by wearing a jock strap or maybe some men’s style underwear. Do whatever makes you feel sexy in a freaky gender bending fashion!

“A woman is never sexier than when she is comfortable in her clothes.”

-Vera Wang

Definition

CFNM stands for clothed female, naked male. It is a fetish in which a typically dominant female leaves her clothes on while the males of the situation must take off their clothes to feel more submissive. It doesn’t always have the tone of someone who is playing with BDSM as some people enjoy it when ladies leave their clothes on simply for the aesthetic purposes while fucking. And of course, while it is less common as a fetish, the reverse can also happen: clothed male naked female. This happens often in male Dom BDSM relationships, but perhaps because that is more usual it isn’t referred to as a specific fetish very much.

Bring it Into Play

If you are interested in trying CFNM, it’s pretty easy to bring into play. You will want to bring some BDSM ideas into play to begin with, so you will perhaps want your male sub to kneel on the floor before telling them to take off their clothes. You can even buy a sexy collar to make them feel even more submissive while they are naked and vulnerable on the ground. Walk around them, rubbing your clothed curves all over him to rub it in even further!

Patriarchy

Some people who are politically minded especially enjoy the CFNM type of play because they feel that it puts the usual sexual play types on its head. They feel that they can turn the objectification of women, which happens more usually in society, into the objectification of men which they find more fun since it is actually quite unusual. If you haven’t thought about it in this way before, it might make you want to try it in the bedroom!

“Oh my God, creampie.”

-Lil B

Definition

A creampie is a beautiful thing when it happens. It is basically when a guy shoots his stream of jizz into the hole of a guy or a girl. It can happen in the pussy or in the asshole, and the girls can keep the cum inside or they can let it drip out to show the hotness inside. Some people prefer cumshots because they are so sexy, but other people find them a bit worrisome because pregnancy can result from them. As such, it is important to use proper birth control methods.

It’s Common

In some couples, who use hormonal birth control, creampies are so common that they don’t even think of them as a sexual fetish, but they probably do have a fetish for this type of cumshot. To others, mainly those who don’t use hormonal birth control, a creampie is so taboo that it sounds alluring and sexy. They may try it as a form of Russian roulette where they know it is dangerous but that is part of what makes it so hot.

Variations on the Theme

A creampie might seem pretty simple and straight forward, but there are actually plenty of variations to keep you interested should you try it. One is called felching and it is where someone else sucks the creamy juice out of the hole it has been shot into. If you have a creampie fantasy but you can’t do it for one reason or another, usually birth control is cited or inability to jizz in the first place, you can use other substances to act out your fantasy of filling your partner with cream to make both themselves and yourself feel sexually satisfied.

“Older women know who they are, and that makes them more beautiful.”

-Naveen Andrews

Definition

A cougar or a MILF is an older women who is quite sexy. They usually have hot womanly curves and the desire to fuck guys who remind them how awesome they are. They might be sexy swingers or they simply might be new divorcées who want to experience fun in life again. The difference between a cougar and a MILF may be slight. Typically a cougar is an older woman who is anywhere from her 30s to her 50s who enjoys dating men who are in their 20s. She goes out on the prowl for them, and considers them her prey. A MILF is simply a hot older woman who may happen to be a mom. Both stereotypically have hot mature curves and the confidence that silly 18 and 19 year old cuties often lack. They’ve had the chance to work through their issues!

Where to Find

If you want to date a MILF or a cougar specifically, you may be wondering where to find them. Well, they are all over regular dating sites, but you may have more luck with them on dating sites that are specific to appreciation of MILFs and cougars. That way there will be no questions about who they are or what they are looking for. Many swinger clubs also have special events just for older women and the guys who like them, so you may want to look into that as well!

Make Sure to Appreciate

A good MILF is not hard to find but a good MILF is hard to keep your hands on. This is because they don’t take any bull from anyone. You have to be sure to appreciate any MILF or cougar who comes into your life by spoiling them in whatever way they desire and making sure to give them plenty of sexual attention.

“There are two types of people in this world. People who hate clowns…and clowns.”

-DJ Machale

Definition

A clown fetish is someone who loves creepy clowns so much that they want to have sex with one, or they want to dress up as one and get freaky. The late pornstar Hollie Stevens was one of the pioneers of clown porn, and she added many videos to this category over the years she was shooting porn. For some the fetish starts because they are actually scared of clowns, and fear is really just around the corner from arousal. Others with a clown fetish are really more interested in the silly antics of clowns, and love the messy tricks they do like putting pies in people’s faces or dumping slime on their head!

So, You’ve Got a Clown Fetish

This is a particularly difficult one to explain to a partner, and so many clown fetishists live in the closet for years. If you do have this fetish, you may feel scared about revealing yourself in such an intimate manner. One way to avoid this is to find a partner on a fetish dating website who shares your interest, or who is at least open to obliging your fantasies on occasion. There are many stories on the web of people coming out to their partners with success. Partners usually accept people for who they are in this instance.

How to Start Playing Clowny

If you have a clown fetish, chances are, you haven’t tried playing yet because it’s hard to find people who love the same fetish you do. However, there are ways you can bring it into your sex life. Get a red nose as a joke and have your partner wear it during sex. This could be a gateway to other sexy things like a balloon flogger or getting messy with the previously mentioned pie play.

“You’ve got a nice neck for choking.”

-Gene Lebell

Definition

There are some fetish purists who say that choking can never be safe, but there are also freaky lovers who turn up their nose and do it anyway in the privacy of their own bedroom. Even relatively vanilla people enjoy choking as a way to spice up their bedroom activities. Choking sex involves placing your hands around the neck of your submissive, or using some type of ligature like a rope, to choke someone as safely as possible. Choking is hot because it is all about control. The person getting choked feels powerless, and the one on top becomes supremely powerful. Obviously experienced lovers who trust each other completely and consent in advance are the only ones who should ever attempt this sort of play. Always play safe.

How To

Choking is something that many approach with trepidation. Always have a safe word and safe motion, since the person might not be able to talk. Many use the wrestling move in which the person taps out when they are done. When choking someone, you may wrap your hands around their neck. Start lightly, and then press harder. Most people like it better when you press on the sides, which actually restrict the blood flow, as opposed to pressing in the middle, which restricts the windpipe. This is because what many actually respond to sexually is the euphoric feeling when blood is slowed down to the brain and while still very dangerous, these kinds of chokes are less dangerous than air restrictions. If you are going to use a rope or belt, make sure you tie it in such a way that the tie itself does not become tighter at all. You want to be in full control of the tension with your hand, and you want the tie to loosen as soon as you let go or stop putting tension on it. Safety is of the utmost importance.

Safety Comes First

Choking is not the safest sexual play, but it feels so good that lots of people do it anyways. When you do engage in choking, not only is there a risk of the person passing out, but there is also a risk of heart attack after a choking session, especially if the person has high blood pressure or is at risk for cardiovascular disease in the first place. Never do choking by yourself because if you pass out, it may be lights out for you permanently. As you can see, this is a controversial way to play, and you have to make your own decisions about it with your partner carefully. Keep in mind repeated chokes can also have a cumulative effect similar to concussions, so you may want to consult your doctor for more information before grabbing a bitch by the throat and choking her into a complete sense of euphoric submission.

“Tell me what you eat and I will tell you what you are.”

-Anthelme Brillat Savarin

Definition

Cum eating was once considered so taboo that it reached the level of becoming a fetish for a while. In modern times, largely thanks to the influence of porn videos on society, it is now considered perfectly normal for a woman to swallow a big thick load of cum from one or more men to satisfy their urges. It isn’t even freaky anymore for a gang of men to dump loads of jizz in one whore’s mouth bukkake style as she gargles it down with a great big gulp. However, if a guy eats his own cum, that is still considered freaky as hell!

Usually the guy is a submissive who is ordered to do it by a Dominant male or a cuckold put into the predicament by his Dominant female partner, but sometimes guys just do it of their own volition out of curiosity for what cum tastes like. Some guys enjoy tasting their own cum, and others like to taste other guys’ cum. This is especially popular in the cuckolding fetish. In this particular scenario, the cuck might even go so far as to suck the cum of another man out of his mistress’ vagina as a special delicacy.

Get Tested

As with anything in which you might exchange fluids with anyone else, you need to get tested before you eat anyone else’s cum. This will protect your from STIs, which is always a good thing. If you’re eating your own cum, there’s absolutely no need for this safety measure, because there’s no harm in eating the jizz that comes from inside of your body. However, when eating foreign jizz, there’s slightly more risk. Of all the activities under the sphere of kink, however, this one is pretty darn safe.

“Corsetry is a body modification.”

-Dita Von Teese

Definition

Corsets have been around for hundreds of years as an undergarment worn mostly by women to give them slim waists. However, like many things that were once a part of every day life, corsets are pretty much only a sexy item to wear these days. Those who are into corset training wear them almost all the time in order to get their waists down to what might seem like impossibly small circumferences. Some women who are trained can’t stand up for very long without the support of their garments, because their muscles aren’t very strong anymore since a corset offers a lot of support.

How to Get Started

Many celebrities actually prefer a modern version of corset training called waist training to get their hourglass figure. To get started with corset training, it’s recommended to find a high quality corset that is made either with bones or new modern technology that works just as well. Once you have your piece, you should start by wearing it just one hour per day, and each consecutive day, you raise the time by 30 minutes to an hour. After a few weeks you should be able to wear the corset for 8 hours per day. If you want to do more time than that, you should save that for only special occasions so your organs get room to breathe once in awhile!

The Extreme

Some people who have been very dedicated to the fetish of waist training and corset training wear their corsets all waking hours of the day and some sleeping. This is only the extreme side of the fetish and shouldn’t be expected of all corset-training hopefuls. According to some, years of corset training does help to reduce the size of the natural waist, however, most people who use corset training prefer to do it because of the restrictive feeling of the corsets and how sexy the actual garments look on their bodies.

“Pain is truth, all else is doubtful”

-J.M. Coetzee

Definition

Cock and Ball Torture is exactly what it sounds like. It is the act of torturing the cock and balls of a male submissive. There are many well-established methods to do this, which can be carefully calibrated to deliver a precise amount of pain, making it a preferred way for a Dominatrix to fine tune sex sessions for the desired result. Some people prefer tight cock and ball bondage while others favor painful clips, clamps and vices. There are some devices, inspired by medieval times, like The Humbler, which contribute to the level of torment. Though the acronym often used is CBT, it shouldn’t be confused with the psychological term Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, even though lots of those who enjoy this practice get a chuckle out of that ambiguity.

Homemade Tools

You probably have a lot of the tools you need for CBT right at home already. You can use a shoelace for cock bondage since a thin cord often works better than a thicker one. There are many great tutorials on the Internet for the specific knots and ties that work best. In addition, you can use simple tools like hair clips and notebook binder clips on the cock and balls. If you want to add a poking sensation to penis pain, use the wooden skewers that you might have used for shish kebabs at a summertime party. A rubber band is perfect for twanging a dick but beware it usually leaves long-lasting marks on the skin. Many experienced Doms prefer clothesline because it can be purchased with a wax coating that leaves less of a mark when released.

Safety First

When you are experimenting with Cock & Ball Torture it’s important to keep safety in mind. It’s very easy to get carried away as a sadist because torturing a man’s cock is super fun and gives an immediate response with each and every action. However, it’s important to have a safe word in place so anyone can stop the torturous action if it gets to be too much. You should know that dicks can take a lot of punishment but you should talk to the person you’re playing with before hand to see what type of pain they like and how much of it they can take. Some people are really tough with their dick pain while others howl after what may seem like only a benign flick of your fingers.

Why Would Anyone Want To Do This?

That’s the silly question so many squares like to ask. The answer is simple. Why would anyone want to eat an ice cream sundae? Why would a man want a pretty girl to suck his dick and gag on his cock until she is close to vomiting? What makes some people prefer sex with multiple partners while others enjoy monogamy? When we look deeper into the minds of other people, we look for reflections of our own self…. But as any experienced freak already knows, we are all unique and the expectation of finding yourself in others is nothing more than a fleeting illusion at best.