Sexorcism

“Everyone knows that even the best exorcism has to be renewed once in a while.”

-Tahir Shah

Definition

You have heard of an exorcism before… a religious figure getting demons and bad spirits out of someone’s soul. Have you also heard of a sexorcism? A parody of sorts that includes having sex with someone new as a method of getting that longing feeling toward your ex-girlfriend out of your soul. After a breakup it’s pretty common to have left over feelings for the person who was previously the object of your affection. You might want to go back to them, even if they are not good for you, because you had such a long relationship and comfortable sex. Fortunately a sexorcism can prevent you from going backward and help you move on with your life.

Finding Someone New

Finding someone for a sexorcism used to be really hard, but now with all of these dating and hook up apps it can be really easy. Sign up and swipe left or right to say whether or not you find someone attractive. Try to find someone seeking casual sex who looks similar to your ex, and retrain your brain by fucking a new partner and transferring your feelings from the old one.

Does it Work

It does work. The best way to get over a past lover, is to find one that looks remarkably similar and fucking her in ways the past lover would have rejected. When you find a new girl who looks like your exgirlfriend and get her to eat your ass even though your exgf never would, you’ll be amazed how quickly your cock forgets all about that girl who dumped you!

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Scissoring

“I think God is a callous bitch for not making me a lesbian.”

-Diamanda Galas

Definition

Scissoring is a sexual practice that is done among lesbians and it helps them to rub their pussies together. It is called scissoring because when it is done, the chicks look kind of like two pairs of scissors open and rubbing up against each other. How is works is that both women open their legs and intertwine them in such a way that their pussies can rub up right against one another. Using this position both lesbians have leverage to press hard or softly up against one another, depending on what their tastes are.

The Scissor Controversy

Some lesbians actually don’t like scissoring at all. They say that it is actually uncomfortable and they also say that it is more representative of what guys think that lesbians do in the sac. They feel it is more of something that pornstars do to make guys happy to fulfill their idea of lesbian sleepovers rather than what actual girl on girl sex is like. However, some lesbians are perfectly happy to do scissoring whenever the mood strikes them. Strangely, the rumor is that a lot of bisexual women don’t really know about scissoring. Perhaps it’s because if they did they would do full lesbian!

Give it a Try

If you want to try scissoring, you will be glad that you did. All it takes is you having a pussy plus another pussy. You open your legs and each person puts one leg under the other person. Then you scoot up close to each other to rub your snatches together. If you want to do this, you need to be aware of the other person’s STI status because you will be rubbing junk together! If you don’t want to do that, some people say you can use a barrier like saran wrap, but others say that can rip to easily so try it at your own caution!

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Swaffelen

“Hitting is better than sex.”

-Reggie Jackson

Definition

Swaffelen is a Dutch term that means to sway, swing or swoop. However, a few years ago it became the sexual term for when you hit your cock against someone else or even an inanimate object. It can also be spelled zwaffelen. Swaffelen can be done for sexual pleasure, but it can also be done to degrade someone or help them feel humiliated. Of course, both of those things can sometimes go together! When someone does this the cock can be fully hard or semi hard, though the latter is more usual because if the cock is fully hard then it usually wants to go inside of a hole.

History

Even though it is a Dutch term, the term is said to have started in some English speaking countries to mean this particular thing. It started to get media coverage in 2008 when a guy used his cock to Swaffel on the Taj Mahal that is quite a disrespectful act for such a place. After that Swaffelen really took of, as a Dutch TV channel made an official International Swaffel Day. People could submit their own videos of hitting their cocks against landmarks such as the Royal Palace of Amsterdam. It was even the word of the year for The Netherlands in 2008!

Only Hit The Right Targets With Your Dick

One time a firefighter did a little Swaffel on his colleague in the Netherlands and he actually got fired. This means that you need to make sure that whomever you hit with your cock is into the activity and wants it to happen. Don’t hit things with your cock at work, and only do it with eager sexual partners who are into it. Most people who like it enjoy hitting their cock on the face of someone who is sucking their dick!

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Sexology

“It should not be a crime to discuss any idea, however outrageous.”

-Patrick Califia-Rice

Definition

Sexology is the study of sex. It hasn’t been one that is prominent in the scholarly fields of higher education because sex has always been something that people turn their noses up at academically or a field that is considered a sub category of other disciplines like sociology and psychology. The people who focus on sexology usually enter from other relevant fields of study such as biology, psychology, sociology and even criminology. It is a very intersectional area of study in which people can learn a lot about human behaviors. Sexologists study all sorts of things including sexual development, fetishes, gender identity and even old people sex. The opportunities are endless.

Why Do You Need Sexology?

Many sex therapists and open-minded therapists are also sexologists who study sex and have a wide knowledge of sexual dysfunctions that you might come to them for. Sexology also leads to the development of new and modern sex toys that are better than the ones that came before them! Plus, the study of sex always leads to new insights into relationships and sexual behaviors that is simply interesting to read about whenever you come across a cool article! It’s a great way to learn about any sexual problems like the inability to orgasm, cumming too quickly, or inability to get it up.

How to Become a Sexologist

If you are actually so interested in sex that you want to study it from an academic standpoint, there are many different organizations you can turn to. There are not too many actual universities that offer programs in sexology, but if you have a degree in a related topic, you may be able to get continuing education credits and receive a certificate that will enhance your degree, and there are a few places that do offer higher education degrees in the topic!

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Suspension Bondage

“Weightlessness was wonderful, and I was surprised at how natural it felt.”

-Ron Garan

Definition

Suspension bondage is a specific type of bondage, usually in the style of the Japanese art of Shibari that involves having the restraints hold a person’s whole weight. Either a pulley or a system of one sort or another is used to lift a person off the ground while they are tied up. The bondage can be complete – meaning the person’s limbs are bound and they are helpless, or they can simply be tied up with a harness that hoists them off the ground but they are free to move and explore their new position in the world.

Partial Vs. Full

There is also something called partial suspension, when a submissive may have one leg on the ground, but they are lifted up high so that their toes just graze the floor. They can use their leg to stabilize a bit, but for the most part, they are a bit off balance. The same can also be done for the knees. If you balance a person on their knees, then they will be a bit off balance, but as the ropes mostly hold them up, they won’t fall over! Full suspension is what you probably think of as suspension when the person has nothing on the ground at all.

Myth Vs. Reality

A lot of times in movies and TV shows you will see people suspended from their wrists. However, you should know that is a very difficult and unrealistic position and even being in that position for a short amount of time can cause damage to the wrists. More usual suspension positions are a secure hogtie where the arms are bound to the body in a box tie, and inverted suspension, which uses special cuffs to suspend someone upside down by the feet.

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Shame

“Shame is a soul eating emotion.”

-Carl Jung

Sexual Shame

We are not talking about shame from a degrading humiliation sex play point of view. Here we are highlighting the strong sense of shame some freaks feel after enjoying the filthiest porn and doing the most freakish acts together. You find something outrageously hot, or try doing something to a girl that has never been done before, and the excitement of pioneering your own new kind of porn overwhelms your senses. Orgasm after orgasm as you blissfully scratch that psychic itch that has always existed in your soul… and then the sex stops, the fantasy is over and you think to yourself…what have I done?!

How Shame Amplifies Your Orgasms

Your jizz spews all over…. and suddenly you feel shame about being such a freak. Then you start to get turned on by that sense of shame itself! This can happen from watching porn, and with people who live out some of the more extreme fetishes that involve something your rational mind may consider to be gross even though your sexual libido loves every moment of it. Shame is a natural part of sex for many people, and for some freaks shame itself is the emotion that determines whether you have a meaningless orgasm, or the kind of deep and satisfying cathartic emotional release you crave.

Don’t Be Ashamed of Your Shame

If you feel shame, that’s completely normal. If you get off on that feeling, it’s freaky but definitely normal as well. It is a reaction to sexual pleasure in our puritanical society that sends us internal messages about sex in one form or another being really bad, over and over, even though sex in all its forms is the highest priority of every single species that has every existed. You don’t need to feel badly about enjoying yourself in a sexual manner and shame should never interfere with your sexual performance. If it does, seek likeminded people, share your shame with them, and learn to accept that fact that consenting adults are always intended to explore their world and their sexual proclivities together so that procreation remains an interesting process and our species is able to thrive. There is nothing more shameful than abstinence from a society and evolutionary perspective!

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Sixty Nine

“A man might forget where he parks or where he lives, but he never forgets oral sex, no matter how bad it is.”

-Barbara Bush

Definition

Sixty Nine is a special sex position in which two partners can both give each other oral sex. According to the author Jonathan Safran Foer in his book Everything Is Illuminated, it was invented in 1969 but that’s not true at all. It was probably invented in the beginning of time as soon as people realized what pleasure people could get from putting their mouths on each other’s genitalia. It’s basically when one person goes on top of the other to suck their genitals, and they place their own genitals over the other person’s face for easy pleasure too.

The Reality

69 is a super hot fantasy but the reality is that some people have a hard time giving pleasure and getting pleasure at the same time. Some people simply can’t come as easily when they are focused on giving a blowjob or oral to their partner, and that’s ok. They can still enjoy the 69 but if you’re expecting it to be automatically orgasmic, you may be disappointed. If you think of it more as a super hot foreplay then you may enjoy it a bit more because there will be less pressure and expectation of what is supposed to happen.

Bringing it Up

If you’ve never done 69 before but you want to try it now, bringing it up to your partner is actually pretty easy. If you can’t describe it to them there are lots of videos showing you what it is all about, and there are also plenty of descriptions of it online to give you inspiration. It’s a mutually beneficial thing which is why so many people like it. A lot of people who get off on giving pleasure and getting it too think 69 is just the tops.

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Stripping/Dancing

“You don’t call them strippers, they’re dancers.”

-Jackson Burnett

Definition

Everyone knows what a stripper is. It’s a girl who dances around for money. She dances in a sexy and alluring way. She knows how to work it and she makes guys drool over her hot moves. However, strippers can play a part in any relationship whether it is from getting a girl to come over and dance for you or by having one of the members of the relationships learn some hot and sexy moves themselves. You can have a blast by bringing in some rhythm to any relationship whether you are good at dancing or not.

Going to the Strip Club

Going to the slub can be a great idea for a date with someone who you already know that you have sexual chemistry with. Take them out, just make sure you have plenty of single dollar bills in your pocket because that is how you tip the strippers who are doing a very good job. If you and your date get up the courage maybe you can also go o the stage and take it all off! Strip clubs are fun, just make sure that you treat the girls who are dancing with a bit of respect in addition to admiration.

Learning the Moves

Other couples would prefer to learn the stripping moves at home. If you do that, there are videos you can watch and most major cities have at least one class you can take. Learn how to wow your lover by giving them a lap dance, or heck, start up a whole new career that will take you places you never imagined. Stripping is really fun and you can also get in shape from learning how to pole dance.

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SubSpace

“Subspace – A state of non-verbal ecstasy.”

-Anonymous

Definition

SubSpace is a state of mind that often happens during BDSM scenes, for the submissive. It is a state that is brought on by a combination of brain chemicals and can be kind of addictive because it is a good feeling. It is especially present after scenes with tons of pain play – including impact play, caning, needle play and other forms of pain. Even bondage can bring on a state of euphoria, because of the restriction, as can rough sex and tons of fun orgasms.

The Caution

When someone is in subspace, you need to watch out for them, especially if you are in a public space with other people around. Subspace makes people especially vulnerable to others who are around, because they lack the general shyness or filters that they may have usually. They might agree to things they wouldn’t normally, and they may seem OK but be totally out of it. Doms should monitor their subs for the whole evening until they go home. In addition, subspace can be an emotional place to be for many, so Doms need to be sure to administer aftercare to their precious toys.

Subdrop

Subdrop is a condition that occurs after the euphoria of subspace. It can feel like a depression or sadness and the proper amount of aftercare is something that can avoid this happening. Even if it does happen, it’s OK, you will just have to administer more after care to make sure that your sub ends up feeling happy and fulfilled at the end of the day. Subdrop can feel scary to the sub so just assure them that everything will be OK and that you will take care of them until they are feeling better.

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Sploshing

“Excuse the mess, but we live here.”

-Roseanne Barr

Definition

Sploshing is what happens when people start taking chances and decide to get messy. It is also known as wet and messy or WAM. People do all sorts of crazy things to get their WAM on. They take baths in all sorts of condiments and dump gross things all over their heads. People who are dedicated to messy fetishes often have a room or booth in their house dedicated to making big messes so they don’t get ketchup or cake all over the furniture. People like this fetish for many reasons. Some simply like the feeling of getting messy and find that it turns them on. Some fetishists don’t even get their groove on when getting messy because cleaning raw eggs out of your holes doesn’t sound too much fun.

Get Messy

Don’t be afraid to get messy. You don’t have to jump into sploshing headfirst. You can just do some small things to get a little bit tasty in a sex session. Start with a whipped cream bikini or by feeding your partner some cake but getting it on their face a little bit. Then you should lick it off which will lead to some very good times. Other ideas include giving massages with olive oil or taking a bath that involves some type of sticky substance like honey or chocolate. You can always bring a bit of mess to try sploshing but not get too into it if you’re trying to figure out what you like.

Be Careful

Be careful when you’re playing with food near holes because you could be creating a recipe for a yeast infection. Make sure to clean any pussies very thoroughly after playing with food, and also, inserting food into the anus is never a good plan. You should only put toys into your butt if they have a base and most foods simply do not! Save yourself a trip to the ER and don’t stick that strawberry up your bum hole.

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