“The question isn’t who is going to let me. It’s who is going to stop me.”

-Ayn Rand


Domination is the general term for what the dominant person does in a BDSM relationship. The dominant can be a person of any gender identity and they can use many different techniques in order to prove their dominance over their submissive or slave. There are many different levels of domination that are perfect for any level of player, so if you’re new to the game, don’t be shy about the who thing.

Starting Out as A Dom

If you want to start playing with domination you will first need to bring it up to your partner. If you guys trust each other and have a communicative relationship, it shouldn’t be a problem, but it’s understandable that you would be nervous. You may want to start by outlining a hot fantasy that you have during sexy time, or maybe by showing them some hot BDSM porn. For most people starting out with the sensual is easier, so things like light bondage and teasing actions might be a good place to start. Once you do have the green light, gather your tools and plan a fun night. You may want to use scarves or ties for some light bondage. Just let your imagination run wild!

Other Domination Practices

Beyond that, the world of domination is vast and wide. There are many ways to dominate someone, and some of them use humiliation and degradation to make someone feel lesser. Others use pain and corporal punishment to keep their subs feeling subjugated. There are plenty of ways to hurt someone in a sexy way. Cock and ball torture or CBT is another way that fem Dommes can torment their male subs. There are just so many options for domination it might be hard to choose just one!

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