“Let’s do anal sex so my pussy can rest. Let’s do anal sex so that you can tell your ex.”
-Only Fire
Definition
Anal sex is sexual penetration that involves the anus, aka the butt. This does not have to be penis in butt. It can be a dildo or a strap-on in the butt. It can also be a finger, fist, or any other item that is used to penetrate the anus.
Bad Reputation
Anal sex has an unfairly bad reputation with a lot of folks. Some people think that anal sex is only meant for sex between men. They think it is dirty. They think it is taboo. They think it is hard to do. But the truth is anal sex is just another wonderful way to engage in a fun sexual activity. Anyone of any gender can enjoy anal, and if you are a man that enjoys your girlfriend’s fingers or toys in your ass, that doesn’t make you gay at all! It can also be a clean activity as long as you follow some basic prep beforehand.
How to Have Anal Sex
First of all, any kind of anal penetration can count as anal sex. So you don’t have to jump into penis in the butt right away. Honestly, it is better to start your journey into the behind with something smaller, like a finger. Also, keep in mind that not everyone likes anal sex. A lot of people are surprised to learn that their bum hole was a lot more sensitive than they realized. But there are also a lot of people that discover that they don’t like it, and this can be both men and women. The idea that all men like to receive anal sex or anal stimulation is not true. There are many men who do like it and there are many men who don’t. Don’t judge yourself or anyone too harshly for their preferences. When learning how to have anal sex, we suggest doing some research. There are a lot of great guides online that will go into detail on the best ways to have enjoyable anal sex.
Quick & Dirty Tips
Go to the bathroom first. You don’t want to have an accident or feel insecure about that possibility during the action. It’s not necessary and it’s not advisable to do too frequently, but you can also try an enema to feel more confident about your cleanliness back there.
Start small. Start with a finger, then as your body adjusts to that size, increase the girth by adding more fingers until you are able to take the size of the object you ultimately want. Just understand that this might not happen all in the same session. This process is called anal training.
Lube, lube and more lube. If you know one thing it should be this! You need to use lots and lots of lube when having anal sex. The anus does not self-lubricate. If you want to get something in there, you better lube up.
Communicate. Make sure to let your partner know if something hurts, or if they are pushing too hard or fast. Only you know your body. If you don’t communicate your limits you might not only dislike the experience but you may also hurt yourself.