Jerk Off Instructions (JOI)

“We have reason to believe that man first walked upright to free his hands for masturbation.”

-Lily Tomlin

Definition

JOI (or jerk off instructions) refers to a person giving someone explicit instructions on how they should masturbate. It is most often instructions for penis self-pleasure, and a popular niche for fetish content creators.

The Fetish

This is a common fetish for voyeurs that want to add more active participation in their voyeurism. Having a sexual partner masturbate while receiving instructions on what you want them to do and how you want them to do it can elicit a powerful orgasm for both the voyeur and the active participant. If you are in a BDSM relationship that explores JOI, there may be certain restraints used to ensure the sub masturbates exactly how the dominant wants them to. Other ways to include JOI to your play can include someone restraining you and then masturbating you as you tell them to, or masturbating themselves as you instruct but without allowing you any access to their body.

What To Do

JOI isn’t that unusual as a kink, so it won’t be hard to find partners that will either want you to instruct them on masturbating or be willing to give you jerk-off instructions. Asking a sexual partner to participate in this fetish with you will probably excite them quite a bit, so have no worries about sharing this desire. There are also numerous fetish performers uploading both free and paid JOI content all over the Internet. If you’re looking for some exciting ideas on how to pursue this kink, finding online communities with other JOI enthusiasts or contacting professional Doms will certainly help! Toys may be introduced into masturbation instructions as well, such as ones with electric stimulation that you can control via a remote control. Using toys that can be controlled remotely may also give you the ability to pursue public JOI masturbation with your partner.

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