“A gentleman holds my hand. A man pulls my hair. A soulmate will do both.”

-Allessandra Torre


Topspace is the mental space that a dominant goes to when they have a great scene. After a topping scene they feel as if they are on top of the world. This is because of a combination of brain chemicals and endorphins that get released as a result of playing in this manner. After leaving a scene and returning to the real world the top might have an inflated sense of self, and they may seem quite manic. Depending on their normal personality, this might be a departure from their usual mode of being. Topspace is usually just a seemingly confident boost, but it can be more.


Topspace can actually lead doms to do really dumb things. If it hits them too strongly in the actual scene, they may become overly confident and attempt something that is just not safe for the submissive. A few submissives have even been injured because of overly confident Doms who felt like they were sailing on a high of endorphins. So, it’s important for tops to really think things over and if something seems dangerous they shouldn’t do it at all. Topspace also leads to topdrop, which is another thing to be aware of.

Top Drop

This is the condition that follows topspace, where the top drops into a depression or a period of low energy. It makes sense that after giving so much energy and care to a submissive in a play situation that you would become low energy or depressed. Tops need to be careful to have some comfort measures in place after they get home from a long night out of playing at a party or on a date. Make it easy for yourself the next day, so you should have things set up like an easy breakfast and maybe don’t make too many wild plans the day after a major top space event!

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